Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? – by Dr. Julie Smith

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Superficially, this can be called a “self-help” book, but that undersells it rather. It’s a professionally-written (as in, by a professional psychologist) handbook full of resources. Its goal? Optimizing your mental health to help you stay resilient no matter what life throws your way.

While the marketing of this book is heavily centered around Dr. Smith’s Internet Celebrity™ status, a lot of her motivation for writing it seems to be precisely so that she can delve deeper into the ideas that her social media “bites” don’t allow room for.

Many authors of this genre pad their chapters with examples; there are no lengthy story-telling asides here, and her style doesn’t need them. She knows her field well, and knows well how to communicate the ideas that may benefit the reader.

The main “meat” of the book? Tips, tricks, guides, resources, systems, flowcharts, mental frameworks, and “if all else fails, do this” guidance. The style of the book is clear and simple, with very readable content that she keeps free from jargon without “dumbing down” or patronizing the reader.

All in all, a fine set of tools for anyone’s “getting through life” toolbox.

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  • Celery vs Rhubarb – Which is Healthier?

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    Our Verdict

    When comparing celery to rhubarb, we picked the rhubarb.

    Why?

    In terms of macros, rhubarb has more carbs and fiber, the ratio of which give it the lower glycemic index, though both are low glycemic index foods. This means this category is a very marginal win for rhubarb.

    When it comes to vitamins, rhubarb has more vitamin C, while celery has more of vitamins A, B5, B6, and B9. A win for celery, this time.

    In the category of minerals, rhubarb has more calcium, iron, magnesium, manganese, potassium, and selenium, while celery has more copper and phosphorus. This one’s a win for rhubarb.

    Let’s give a quick nod also to polyphenols; rhubarb has more by overall quantity, and more in terms of “more useful to humans” too, being rich in an assortment of flavanols while celery must make do with some furanocoumarins.

    In short, enjoy either or both, but nutritional density is a great reason to get some rhubarb in!

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  • How to Eat 30 Plants a Week – by Hugh Fearnley-Whittingstall

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    If you’re used to eating the same two fruits and three vegetables in rotation, the “gold standard” evidence-based advice to “eat 30 different plants per week” can seem a little daunting.

    Where this book excels is in reminding the reader to use a lot of diverse plants that are readily available in any well-stocked supermarket, but often get forgotten just because “we don’t buy that”, so it becomes invisible on the shelf.

    It’s not just a recipe book (though yes, there are plenty of recipes here); it’s also advice about stocking up and maintaining that stock, advice on reframing certain choices to inject a little diversity into every meal without it become onerous, meal-planning rotation advice, and a lot of recipes that are easy but plant-rich, for example “this soup that has these six plants in it”, etc.

    He also gives, for those eager to get started, “10 x 3 recipes per week to guarantee your 30”, in other words, 10 sets of 3 recipes, wherein each set of 3 recipes uses >30 different plants between them, such that if we have each of these set-of-three meals over the course of the week, then what we do in the other 4–18 meals (depending on how many meals per day you like to have) is all just a bonus.

    The latter is what makes this book an incredibly stress-free approach to more plant-diverse eating for life.

    Bottom line: if you want to be able to answer “do you get your five-a-day?” with “you mean breakfast?” because you’ve already hit five by breakfast each day, then this is the book for you.

    Click here to check out How To Eat 30 Plants A Week, and indeed eat 30+ different plants per week!

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  • Magnesium Glycinate vs Magnesium Citrate – Which is Healthier?

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    Our Verdict

    When comparing magnesium glycinate to magnesium citrate, we picked the citrate.

    Why?

    Both are fine sources of magnesium, a nutrient in which it’s very common to be deficient—a lot of people don’t eat many leafy greens, beans, nuts, and so forth that contain it.

    A quick word on a third contender we didn’t include here: magnesium oxide is probably the most widely-sold magnesium supplement because it’s cheapest to make. It also has woeful bioavailability, to the point that there seems to be negligible benefit to taking it. So we don’t recommend that.

    Magnesium glycinate and magnesium citrate are both absorbed well, but magnesium citrate is the most well-absorbed form of magnesium supplement.

    In terms of the relative merits of the glycine or the citric acid (the “other part” of magnesium glycinate and magnesium citrate, respectively), both are also great nutrients, but the amount delivered with the magnesium is quite small in each case, and so there’s nothing here to swing it one way or the other.

    For this reason, we went with the magnesium citrate, as the most readily bioavailable!

    Want to try them out?

    Here they are on Amazon:

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  • The Cold Truth About Respiratory Infections

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    The Pathogens That Came In From The Cold

    Yesterday, we asked you about your climate-themed policy for avoiding respiratory infections, and got the above-depicted, below-described, set of answers:

    • About 46% of respondents said “Temperature has no bearing on infection risk”
    • About 31% of respondents said “It’s important to get plenty of cold, fresh air, as this kills/inactivates pathogens”
    • About 22% of respondents said “It’s important to stay warm to avoid getting colds, flu, etc”

    Some gave rationales, including…

    For “stay warm”:

    ❝Childhood lessons❞

    For “get cold, fresh air”:

    ❝I just feel that it’s healthy to get fresh air daily. Whether it kills germs, I don’t know❞

    For “temperature has no bearing”:

    ❝If climate issue affected respiratory infections, would people in the tropics suffer more than those in colder climates? Pollutants may affect respiratory infections, but I doubt just temperature would do so.❞

    So, what does the science say?

    It’s important to stay warm to avoid getting colds, flu, etc: True or False?

    False, simply. Cold weather does increase the infection risk, but for reasons that a hat and scarf won’t protect you from. More on this later, but for now, let’s lay to rest the idea that bodily chilling will promote infection by cold, flu, etc.

    In a small-ish but statistically significant study (n=180), it was found that…

    ❝There was no evidence that chilling caused any acute change in symptom scores❞

    Read more: Acute cooling of the feet and the onset of common cold symptoms

    Note: they do mention in their conclusion that chilling the feet “causes the onset of cold symptoms in about 10% of subjects who are chilled”, but the data does not support that conclusion, and the only clear indicator is that people who are more prone to colds generally, were more prone to getting a cold after a cold water footbath.

    In other words, people who were more prone to colds remained more prone to colds, just the same.

    It’s important to get plenty of cold, fresh air, as this kills/inactivates pathogens: True or False?

    Broadly False, though most pathogens do have an optimal operating temperature that (for obvious reasons) is around normal human body temperature.

    However, given that they don’t generally have to survive outside of a host body for long to get passed on, the fact that the pathogens may be a little sluggish in the great outdoors will not change the fact that they will be delighted by the climate in your respiratory tract as soon as you get back into the warm.

    With regard to the cold air not being a reliable killer/inactivator of pathogens, we call to the witness stand…

    Polar Bear Dies From Bird Flu As H5N1 Spreads Across Globe

    (it was found near Utqiagvik, one of the northernmost communities in Alaska)

    Because pathogens like human body temperature, raising the body temperature is a way to kill/inactivate them: True or False?

    True! Unfortunately, it’s also a way to kill us. Because we, too, cannot survive for long above our normal body temperature.

    So, for example, bundling up warmly and cranking up the heating won’t necessarily help, because:

    • if the temperature is comfortable for you, it’s comfortable for the pathogen
    • if the temperature is dangerous to the pathogen, it’s dangerous to you too

    This is why the fever response evolved, and/but why many people with fevers die anyway. It’s the body’s way of playing chicken with the pathogen, challenging “guess which of us can survive this for longer!”

    Temperature has no bearing on infection risk: True or False?

    True and/or False, circumstantially. This one’s a little complex, but let’s break it down to the essentials.

    • Temperature has no direct effect, for the reasons we outlined above
    • Temperature is often related to humidity, which does have an effect
    • Temperature does tend to influence human behavior (more time spent in open spaces with good ventilation vs more time spent in closed quarters with poor ventilation and/or recycled air), which has an obvious effect on transmission rates

    The first one we covered, and the third one is self-evident, so let’s look at the second one:

    Temperature is often related to humidity, which does have an effect

    When the environmental temperature is warmer, water droplets in the air will tend to be bigger, and thus drop to the ground much more quickly.

    When the environmental temperature is colder, water droplets in the air will tend to be smaller, and thus stay in the air for longer (along with any pathogens those water droplets may be carrying).

    Some papers on the impact of this:

    So whatever temperature you like to keep your environment, humidity is a protective factor against respiratory infections, and dry air is a risk factor.

    So, for example:

    • If the weather doesn’t suit having good ventilation, a humidifier is a good option
    • Being in an airplane is one of the worst places to be for this, outside of a hospital

    Don’t have a humidifier? Here’s an example product on Amazon, but by all means shop around.

    A crock pot with hot water in and the lid off is also a very workable workaround too

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  • Staying Sane In A Hyper-Connected World

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    Staying Sane In A Hyper-Connected World

    There’s a war over there, a genocide in progress somewhere else, and another disease is ravaging the population of somewhere most Americans would struggle to point out on the map. Not only that, but that one politician is at it again, and sweeping wildfires are not doing climate change any favors.

    To borrow an expression from Gen-Z…

    “Oof”.

    A Very Modern Mental Health Menace

    For thousands of years, we have had wars and genocides and plagues and corrupt politicians and assorted major disasters. Dire circumstances are not new to us as a species. So what is new?

    As some reactionary said during the dot-com boom, “the Internet doesn’t make people stupid; it just makes their stupidity more accessible”.

    The same is true now of The Horrors™.

    The Internet doesn’t, by and large, make the world worse. But what it does do is make the bad things much, much more accessible.

    Understanding and empathy are not bad things, but watch out…

    • When soldiers came home from the First World War, those who hadn’t been there had no conception of the horrors that had been endured. That made it harder for the survivors to get support. That was bad.
    • Nowadays, while mass media covering horrors certainly doesn’t convey the half of it, even the half it does convey can be overwhelming. This is also bad.

    The insidious part is: while people are subjectively reporting good physical/mental health, the reports of the symptoms of poor physical/mental health from the same population do not agree:

    Stress in America 2023: A nation grappling with psychological impacts of collective trauma

    Should we just not watch the news?

    In principle that’s an option, but it’s difficult to avoid, unless you truly live under a rock, and also do not frequent any social media at all. And besides, isn’t it our duty as citizens of this world to stay informed? How else can we make informed choices?

    Staying informed, mindfully

    There are steps that can be taken to keep ourselves informed, while protecting our mental health:

    • Choose your sources wisely. Primary sources (e.g. tweets and videos from people who are there) will usually be most authentic, but also most traumatizing. Dispassionate broadsheets may gloss over or misrepresent things more (something that can be countered a bit by reading an opposing view from a publication you hate on principle), but will offer more of an emotional buffer.
    • Boundary your consumption of the news. Set a timer and avoid doomscrolling. Your phone (or other device) may help with this if you set a screentime limit per app where you consume that kind of media.
    • Take (again, boundaried) time to reflect. If you don’t, your brain will keep grinding at it “like a fork in the garbage disposal”. Talking about your feelings on the topic with a trusted person is great; journaling is also a top-tier more private option.
    • If you feel helpless, help. Taking even small actions to help in the face of suffering somewhere else (e.g. donating to relief funds, engaging in advocacy / hounding your government about it), can help alleviate feelings of anguish and helplessness. And of course, as a bonus, it actually helps in the real world too.
    • When you relax, relax fully. Even critical care doctors need downtime, nobody can be “always on” without burning out. So whatever distracts and relaxes you completely, make sure to make time for that too.

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  • Pine Nuts vs Peanuts – Which is Healthier?

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    Our Verdict

    When comparing pine nuts to peanuts, we picked the pine nuts.

    Why?

    An argument could be made for either, honestly, as it depends on what we prioritize the most. These are both very high-calorie foods, and/but are far from empty calories, as they both contain main nutrients. Obviously, if you are allergic to nuts, this one is just not a comparison for you, sorry.

    Looking at the macros first, peanuts are higher in protein, carbs, and fiber, while pine nuts are higher in fats—though the fats are healthy, being mostly polyunsaturated, with about a third of the total fats monounsaturated, and a low amount of saturated fat (peanuts have nearly 2x the saturated fat). On balance, we’ll call the macros category a moderate win for peanuts, though.

    In terms of vitamins, peanuts have more of vitamins B1, B3, B5, B6, and B9, while pine nuts have more of vitamins A, B2, C, E, K, and choline. All in all, a marginal win for pine nuts.

    In the category of minerals, peanuts have more calcium and selenium, while pine nuts have more copper, iron, magnesium, manganese, phosphorus, and zinc. An easy win for pine nuts, even before we take into account that peanuts have nearly 10x as much sodium. And yes, we are talking about the raw nuts, not nuts that have been roasted and salted.

    Adding up the categories gives a win for pine nuts—but if you have certain particular priorities, you might still prefer peanuts for the areas in which peanuts are stronger.

    Of course, the best solution is to enjoy both!

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    You might like to read:

    Why You Should Diversify Your Nuts!

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