How To Know When You’re Healing Emotionally

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The healing process can be humbling but rewarding, leading to deep fulfillment and inner peace. Discomfort in healing can be part of growth and self-integration. Because of that, progress sometimes looks and/or feels like progress… And sometimes it doesn’t. Here’s how to recognize it, though:

Small but important parts of a bigger process

Nine signs indicating you are healing:

  1. Allowing emotions: you acknowledge and process both negative and positive emotions instead of suppressing them.
  2. Improved boundaries: you improve at expressing and maintaining boundaries, overcoming fear of rejection, guilt, and shame.
  3. Acceptance of past: you accept difficult past experiences and their impact, reducing their hold over you.
  4. Less reactivity: you become less reactive and more thoughtful in responses, practicing emotional self-regulation.
  5. Non-linear healing: you understand that healing involves ups and downs and isn’t a straightforward journey.
  6. Stepping out of your comfort zone: you start taking brave steps that previously induced fear or anxiety.
  7. Handling disappointments: you accept setbacks and respond to them healthily, without losing motivation.
  8. Inner peace: you develop a sense of wholeness, and forgiveness for yourself and others, reducing self-sabotage.
  9. Welcoming support: you become more open to seeking and accepting help, moving beyond pride and shame.

In short: healing (especially the very first part: accepting that something needs healing) can be uncomfortable but lead to much better places in life.  It’s okay if healing is slow; everyone’s journey is different, and doing your best is enough.

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