The Reason You’re Alone

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If you are feeling lonely, then there are likely reasons why, as Kurtzgesagt explains:

Why it happens and how to fix it

Many people feel lonely and disconnected, often not knowing how to make new friends. And yet, social connection strongly predicts happiness, while lack of it is linked to diseases and a shorter life.

One mistake that people make is thinking it has to be about shared interests; that can help, but proximity and shared time are much more important.

Another stumbling block for many is that adult responsibilities and distractions (work, kids, technology) often take priority over friendships—but loneliness is surprisingly highest among young people, worsened by the pandemic’s impact on social interactions.

And even when friendships are made, they fade without attention, often accidentally, impacting both people involved. Other friendships can be lost following big life changes such as moving house or the end of a relationship. And for people above a certain advanced age, friendship groups can shrink due to death, if one’s friends are all in the same age group.

But, all is not lost. We can make friends with people of any age, and old friendships can be revived by a simple invitation. We can also take a “build it and they will come” approach, by organizing events and being the one who invites others.

It’s easy to fear rejection—most people do—but it’s worth overcoming for the potential rewards. That said, building friendships requires time, patience, caring about others, and being open about yourself, which can involve a degree of vulnerability too.

In short: be laid-back while still prioritizing friendships, show genuine interest, and stay open to social opportunities.

For more on all of this, enjoy:

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How To Beat Loneliness & Isolation

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  • 4 Tips To Stand Without Using Hands

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    The “sit-stand” test, getting up off the floor without using one’s hands, is well-recognized as a good indicator of healthy aging, and predictor of longevity. But what if you can’t do it? Rather than struggling, there are exercises to strengthen the body to be able to do this vital movement.

    Step by step

    Teresa Shupe has been teaching Pilates professionally full-time for over 25 years, and here’s what she has to offer in the category of safe and effective ways of improving balance and posture while doing the sitting-to-standing movement:

    • Squat! Doing squats (especially deep ones) regularly strengthens all the parts necessary to effectively complete this movement. If your knees aren’t up to it at first, do the squats with your back against a wall to start with.
    • Roll! On your back, cross your feet as though preparing to stand, and rock-and-roll your body forwards. To start with you can “cheat” and use your fingertips to give a slight extra lift. This exercise builds mobility in the various necessary parts of the body, and also strengthens the core—as well as getting you accustomed to using your bodyweight to move your body forwards.
    • Lift! This one’s focusing on that last part, and taking it further. Because it may be difficult to get enough momentum initially, you can practice by holding small weights in your hands, to shift your centre of gravity forwards a bit. Unlike many weights exercises, in this case you’re going to transition to holding less weight rather than more, though.
    • Complete! Continue from the above, without weights now; use the blades of your feet to stand. If you need to, use your fingertips to give you a touch more lift and stability, and reduce the fingers that you use until you are using none.

    For more on each of these as well as a visual demonstration, enjoy this short video:

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    Further reading

    For more exercises with a similar approach, check out:

    Mobility As A Sporting Pursuit

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  • The Beautiful Cure – by Dr. Daniel Davis

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    This one is not just a book about the history of immunology and a primer on how the immune system works. It is those things too, but it’s more:

    Dr. Daniel Davis, a professor of immunology and celebrated researcher in his own right, bids us look at not just what we can do, but also what else we might.

    This is not to say that the book is speculative; Dr. Davis deals in data rather than imaginings. He also cautions us against falling prey to sensationalization of the “beautiful cures” that the field of immunology is working towards. What, then, are these “beautiful cures”?

    Just like our immune systems (in the plural; by Dr. Davis’ count, primarily talking about our innate and adaptive immune systems) can in principle deal with any biological threat, but in practice don’t always get it right, the same goes for our medicine.

    He argues that in principle, we categorically can cure any immune-related disease (including autoimmune diseases, and tangentially, cancer). The theoretical existence of such cures is a mathematically known truth. The practical, contingent existence of them? That’s what takes the actual work.

    The style of the book is accessible pop science, with a hard science backbone from start to finish.

    Bottom line: if you’d like to know more about immunology, and be inspired with hope and wonder without getting carried away, this is the book for you.

    Click here to check out The Beautiful Cure, and learn about these medical marvels!

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  • No Equipment Muscle Gain Routine for Ages 50+

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    Sarcopenia, the loss of muscle mass commonly associated with aging, can be a big problem as it leaves us vulnerable to injury (and also isn’t great for the metabolism—keeping adequate muscle mass ensures keeping the metabolism ticking over nicely). Will Harlow, over-50s specialist physiotherapist, is here to share a routine that works without weights:

    Where it counts

    There’s a fair amount of emphasis here on the lower body and core. That’s because in practical terms, this is what matters more for our health than having bulging biceps:

    • First exercise: donkey calf raises to build strength in the calves using a chair.
    • Second exercise: single-leg elevated lunge to work the quads and glutes, using a step or books for elevation.
    • Third exercise: slow sit-to-stand for quads, glutes, and core strength, focusing on a slow descent.
    • Fourth exercise: wall press-up to strengthen the chest, shoulders, and arms, with a variation using towels for increased resistance.
    • Final exercise: shoulder raises using bottles or similar weights to target the shoulders and rotator cuffs.

    Ok, so that last one was a slight cheat on his part as it does require grabbing a weight, but it’s not specialist equipment at least, and can just be something you grabbed at home. It’s also the least important of the five exercises, and can be skipped if necessary.

    For more on all of these plus visual demonstrations, enjoy:

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  • Ways To Boost Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor (BDNF)

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    It’s Q&A Day at 10almonds!

    Have a question or a request? We love to hear from you!

    In cases where we’ve already covered something, we might link to what we wrote before, but will always be happy to revisit any of our topics again in the future too—there’s always more to say!

    As ever: if the question/request can be answered briefly, we’ll do it here in our Q&A Thursday edition. If not, we’ll make a main feature of it shortly afterwards!

    So, no question/request too big or small 😎

    ❝You said that exercise is a good way to boost BDNF, are there any supplements you’d recommend?❞

    Exercise is indeed a great way, and is generally considered the best way! Indeed, it’ll even work in the absence of eating anything, as in this study which found:

    • Prolonged (90 min) light cycling exercise increased plasma- and serum-derived BDNF irrespective of being fed or fasted and seemed to be independent of changes in cerebral shear stress.
    • Six minutes of high-intensity cycling intervals increased every metric of circulating BDNF by 4 to 5 times more than prolonged low-intensity cycling; the increase in plasma-derived BDNF was correlated with a 6-fold increase in circulating lactate irrespective of feeding or fasting.
    • Compared to 1 day of fasting with or without prolonged light exercise, high-intensity exercise is a much more efficient means to increase BDNF in circulation.

    Read in full: Fasting for 20 h does not affect exercise-induced increases in circulating BDNF in humans ← according to the research, a 7-minute HIIT session is excellent for this!

    If you’re wondering whether your body is truly up to high-intensity exercise, the answer is almost certainly yes, if you go about it with due care and attention. We wrote about this here: How To Do HIIT (Without Wrecking Your Body)

    Drugs are technically possible, but hard to get hold of

    As for supplements/drugs, the only thing not related to food that we know of is Noopept:

    The original novel nootropic and neuroprotective agent noopept

    …which was readily available if you knew that right people in Russia 15–20 years ago, but is almost certainly not available at your local drugstore, and availability online is scarce, difficult, and risky (gray market / black market sites).

    Food for thought

    In terms of food, there are many options, which also means supplements derived from those foods. In order to make BDNF, your brain is best when well-nourished with:

    Learn more: Effects of nutritional interventions on BDNF concentrations in humans: a systematic review

    With regard to omega-3 in particular:

    ❝The effects were larger when supplements were used for longer than 10 weeks, doses under 1500mg/day, and adults older than 50 years.❞

    Source: The effect of omega 3 supplementation on serum brain-derived neurotrophic factor: A systematic review and meta-analysis

    Adaptogens allow your brain to increase BDNF levels

    You can also help your brain to produce BDNF by supplementing with adaptogens, that is to say, compounds that help your body to better manage stress, thus reducing cortisol levels, which otherwise interfere with BDNF production.

    If you’d like a BDNF-optimized stack of such adaptogens in one supplement, here’s an example product on Amazon 😎

    Can you take BDNF directly?

    You may be wondering if you can get BDNF directly, by simply consuming it as part of your diet. And, technically you can, but we don’t recommend it, because eating human brains carries a risk of CJD and other assorted prion diseases.

    So, it’s better to simply enjoy the foods that allow your own brain to make it.

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  • Reinventing Your Life – by Dr. Jeffrey Young & Dr. Janet Klosko

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    This book is quite unlike any other broadly-CBT-focused books we’ve reviewed before. How so, you may wonder?

    Rather than focusing on automatic negative thoughts and cognitive distortions with a small-lens focus on an immediate problem, this one zooms out rather and tackles the cause rather than the symptom.

    The authors outline eleven “lifetraps” that we can get stuck in:

    1. Abandonment
    2. Mistrust & abuse
    3. Vulnerability
    4. Dependence
    5. Emptional deprivation
    6. Social exclusion
    7. Defectiveness
    8. Failure
    9. Subjugation
    10. Unrelenting standards
    11. Entitlement

    They then borrow from other areas of psychology, to examine where these things came from, and how they can be addressed, such that we can escape from them.

    The style of the book is very reader-friendly pop-psychology, with illustrative (and perhaps apocryphal, but no less useful for it if so) case studies.

    The authors then go on to give step-by-step instructions for dealing with each of the 11 lifetraps, per 6 unmet needs we probably had that got us into them, and per 3 likely ways we tried to cope with this using maladaptive coping mechanisms that got us into the lifetrap(s) we ended up in.

    Bottom line: if you feel there’s something in your life that’s difficult to escape from (we cannot outrun ourselves, after all, and bring our problems with us), this book could well contain the key that you need to get out of that cycle.

    Click here to check out “Reinventing Your Life” and break free from any lifetrap(s) of your own!

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  • Seven Things To Do For Good Lung Health!

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    YouTube Channel Wellness Check is challenging us all to do the following things. They’re framing it as a 30-day challenge, but honestly, there’s nothing here that isn’t worth doing for life

    Here’s the list:

    • Stop smoking (of course, smoking is bad for everything, but the lungs are one of its main areas of destruction)
    • Good posture (a scrunched up chest is not the lungs’ best operating conditions!)
    • Regular exercise (exercising your body in different ways exercises your lungs in different ways!)
    • Monitor air quality (some environments are much better/worse than others, but don’t underestimate household air quality threats either)
    • Avoid respiratory infections (shockingly, COVID is not great for your lungs, nor are the various other respiratory infections available)
    • Check your O2 saturation levels (pulse oximeters like this one are very cheap to buy and easy to use)
    • Prevent mucus and phlegm from accumulating (these things are there for reasons; the top reason is trapping pathogens, allergens, and general pollutants/dust etc; once those things are trapped, we don’t want that mucus there any more!)

    Check out the video itself for more detail on each of these items:

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    Want to know more?

    You might like our article about COPD:

    Why Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) Is More Likely Than You Think

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