The Five Invitations – by Frank Ostaseski

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This book covers exactly what its subtitle promises, and encourages the reader to truly live life fully, something that Ostaseski believes cannot be done in ignorance of death.

Instead, he argues from his experience of decades working at a hospice, we must be mindful of death not only to appreciate life, but also to make the right decisions in life—which means responding well to what he calls, as per the title of this book, “the five invitations”.

We will not keep them a mystery; they are:

  1. Don’t wait; do the important things now
  2. Welcome everything; push away nothing
  3. Bring your whole self to the experience
  4. Find a place in the middle of things
  5. Cultivate a “don’t know” mind

Note, for example, that “do the important things now” requires knowing what is important. For example, ensuring a loved one knows how you feel about them, might be more important than scratching some item off a bucket list. And “push away nothing” does mean bad things too; rather, of course try to make life better rather than worse, but accept the lessons and learnings of the bad too, and see the beauty that can be found in contrast to it. Enjoying the fullness of life without getting lost in it; carrying consciousness through the highs and lows. And yes, approaching the unknown (which means not only death, but also the large majority of life) with open-minded curiosity and wonder.

The style of the book is narrative and personal, without feeling like a collection of anecdotes, but rather, taking the reader on a journey, prompting reflection and introspection along the way.

Bottom line: if you’d like to minimize the regrets you have in life, this book is a fine choice.

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  • Oat Milk vs Almond Milk – Which is Healthier?

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    Our Verdict

    When comparing oat milk to almond milk, we picked the almond milk.

    Why?

    This one’s quite straightforward, and no, it’s not just our bias for almonds

    Rather, almonds contain a lot more vitamins and minerals, all of which usually make it into the milk.

    Oat milk is still a fine choice though, and has a very high soluble fiber content, which is great for your heart.

    Just make sure you get versions without added sugar or other unpleasantries! You can always make your own at home, too.

    You can read a bit more about the pros and cons of various plant milks here:

    Which Plant Milk?

    Enjoy!

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  • Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers – by Dr. Robert M. Sapolsky

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    The book does kick off with a section that didn’t age well—he talks of the stress induced globally by the Spanish Flu pandemic of 1918, and how that kind of thing just doesn’t happen any more. Today, we have much less existentially dangerous stressors!

    However, the fact we went and had another pandemic really only adds weight to the general arguments of the book, rather than detracting.

    We are consistently beset by “the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” as Shakespeare would put it, and there’s a reason (or twenty) why many people go grocery-shopping with the cortisol levels of someone being hunted for sport.

    So, why don’t zebras get ulcers, as they actually are hunted for food?

    They don’t have rent to pay or a mortgage, they don’t have taxes, or traffic, or a broken washing machine, or a project due in the morning. Their problems come one at a time. They have a useful stress response to a stressful situation (say, being chased by lions), and when the danger is over, they go back to grazing. They have time to recover.

    For us, we are (usually) not being chased by lions. But we have everything else, constantly, around the clock. So, how to fix that?

    Dr. Sapolsky comprehensively describes our physiological responses to stress in quite different terms than many. By reframing stress responses as part of the homeostatic system—trying to get the body back into balance—we find a solution, or rather: ways to help our bodies recover.

    The style is “pop-science” and is very accessible for the lay reader while still clearly coming from a top-level academic who is neck-deep in neuroendocrinological research. Best of both worlds!

    Bottom line: if you try to take very day at a time, but sometimes several days gang up on you at once, and you’d like to learn more about what happens inside you as a result and how to fix that, this book is for you!

    Click here to check out “Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers” and give yourself a break!

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  • What causes food cravings? And what can we do about them?

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    Many of us try to eat more fruits and vegetables and less ultra-processed food. But why is sticking to your goals so hard?

    High-fat, sugar-rich and salty foods are simply so enjoyable to eat. And it’s not just you – we’ve evolved that way. These foods activate the brain’s reward system because in the past they were rare.

    Now, they’re all around us. In wealthy modern societies we are bombarded by advertising which intentionally reminds us about the sight, smell and taste of calorie-dense foods. And in response to these powerful cues, our brains respond just as they’re designed to, triggering an intense urge to eat them.

    Here’s how food cravings work and what you can do if you find yourself hunting for sweet or salty foods.

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    What causes cravings?

    A food craving is an intense desire or urge to eat something, often focused on a particular food.

    We are programmed to learn how good a food tastes and smells and where we can find it again, especially if it’s high in fat, sugar or salt.

    Something that reminds us of enjoying a certain food, such as an eye-catching ad or delicious smell, can cause us to crave it.

    Three people holding a cone of french fries.
    Our brains learn to crave foods based on what we’ve enjoyed before. fon thachakul/Shutterstock

    The cue triggers a physical response, increasing saliva production and gastric activity. These responses are relatively automatic and difficult to control.

    What else influences our choices?

    While the effect of cues on our physical response is relatively automatic, what we do next is influenced by complex factors.
    Whether or not you eat the food might depend on things like cost, whether it’s easily available, and if eating it would align with your health goals.

    But it’s usually hard to keep healthy eating in mind. This is because we tend to prioritise a more immediate reward, like the pleasure of eating, over one that’s delayed or abstract – including health goals that will make us feel good in the long term.

    Stress can also make us eat more. When hungry, we choose larger portions, underestimate calories and find eating more rewarding.

    Looking for something salty or sweet

    So what if a cue prompts us to look for a certain food, but it’s not available?

    Previous research suggested you would then look for anything that makes you feel good. So if you saw someone eating a doughnut but there were none around, you might eat chips or even drink alcohol.

    But our new research has confirmed something you probably knew: it’s more specific than that.

    If an ad for chips makes you look for food, it’s likely a slice of cake won’t cut it – you’ll be looking for something salty. Cues in our environment don’t just make us crave food generally, they prompt us to look for certain food “categories”, such as salty, sweet or creamy.

    Food cues and mindless eating

    Your eating history and genetics can also make it harder to suppress food cravings. But don’t beat yourself up – relying on willpower alone is hard for almost everyone.

    Food cues are so powerful they can prompt us to seek out a certain food, even if we’re not overcome by a particularly strong urge to eat it. The effect is more intense if the food is easily available.

    This helps explain why we can eat an entire large bag of chips that’s in front of us, even though our pleasure decreases as we eat. Sometimes we use finishing the packet as the signal to stop eating rather than hunger or desire.

    Is there anything I can do to resist cravings?

    We largely don’t have control over cues in our environment and the cravings they trigger. But there are some ways you can try and control the situations you make food choices in.

    • Acknowledge your craving and think about a healthier way to satisfy it. For example, if you’re craving chips, could you have lightly-salted nuts instead? If you want something sweet, you could try fruit.
    • Avoid shopping when you’re hungry, and make a list beforehand. Making the most of supermarket “click and collect” or delivery options can also help avoid ads and impulse buys in the aisle.
    • At home, have fruit and vegetables easily available – and easy to see. Also have other nutrient dense, fibre-rich and unprocessed foods on hand such as nuts or plain yoghurt. If you can, remove high-fat, sugar-rich and salty foods from your environment.
    • Make sure your goals for eating are SMART. This means they are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound.
    • Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up if you eat something that doesn’t meet your health goals. Just keep on trying.

    Gabrielle Weidemann, Associate Professor in Psychological Science, Western Sydney University and Justin Mahlberg, Research Fellow, Pyschology, Monash University

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  • At The Heart Of Women’s Health

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    A woman’s heart is a particular thing

    For the longest time (and still to a large degree now), “women’s health” is assumed to refer to the health of organs found under a bikini. But there’s a lot more to it than that. We are whole people, with such things as brains and hearts and more.

    Today (Valentine’s Day!) we’re focusing on the heart.

    A quick recap:

    We’ve talked previously about some of these sex differences when it comes to the heart, for example:

    Heart Attack: His & Hers (Be Prepared!)

    …but that’s fairly common knowledge at least amongst those who are attentive to such things, whereas…

    Statins: His & Hers?

    …is much less common knowledge, especially with the ways statins are more likely to make things worse for a lot of women (not all though; see the article for some nuance about that).

    We also talked about:

    What Menopause Does To The Heart

    …which is well worth reading too!

    A question:

    Why are women twice as likely to die from a heart attack as their age-equivalent male peers? Women develop heart disease later, but die from it sooner. Why is that?

    That’s been a question scientists have been asking (and tentatively answering, as scientists do—hypotheses, theories, conclusions even sometimes) for 20 years now. Likely contributing factors include:

    • A lack of public knowledge of the different symptoms
    • A lack of confidence of bystanders to perform CPR on a woman
    • A lack of public knowledge (including amongst prescribers) about the sex-related differences for statins
    • A lack of women in cardiology, comparatively.
    • A lack of attention to it, simply. Men get heart disease earlier, so it’s thought of as a “man thing”, by health providers as much as by individuals. Men get more regular cardiovascular check-ups, women get a mammogram and go.

    Statistically, women are much more likely to die from heart disease than breast cancer:

    • Breast cancer kills around 0.02% of us.
    • Heart disease kills one in three.

    And yet…

    ❝In a nationwide survey, only 22% of primary care doctors and 42% of cardiologists said they feel extremely well prepared to assess cardiovascular risks in women.

    We are lagging in implementing risk prevention guidelines for women.

    A lot of women are being told to just watch their cholesterol levels and see their doctor in a year. That’s a year of delayed care.❞

    ~ Dr. Gina Lundberg

    Source: The slowly evolving truth about heart disease and women

    (there’s a lot more in that article than we have room for in ours, so do check it out!)

    Some good news:

    The “bystanders less likely to feel confident performing CPR on a woman” aspect may be helped by the deployment of new automatic external defibrillator, that works from four sides instead of one.

    It’s called “double sequential external defibrillation”, and you can learn about it here:

    A new emergency procedure for cardiac arrests aims to save more lives—here’s how it works

    (it’s in use already in Canada and Aotearoa)

    Gentlemen-readers, thank you for your attention to this one even if it was mostly not about you! Maybe someone you love will benefit from being aware of this

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    Since it’s Valentine’s Day, a little more on affairs of the heart…

    Is chocolate good for the heart? And is it really an aphrodisiac?

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  • Discipline is Destiny – by Ryan Holiday

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    We’ve previously reviewed another of Holiday’s books, The Daily Stoic, and here is another excellent work from the same author.

    We’re not a philosophy newsletter, but there are some things that make a big difference to physical and mental health, the habits we build, and the path we take in life for better or for worse.

    Self-discipline is one of those things. A lot of the time, we know what we need to do, but knowing isn’t the problem. We need to actually do it! This applies to diet, exercise, sleep, and more.

    Holiday gives us, in a casual easy-reading style, timeless principles to lock in strong discipline and good habits for life.

    The book’s many small chapters, by the way, are excellent for reading a chapter-per-day as a healthy dose of motivation each morning, if you’re so inclined.

    Bottom line: if you’ve noticed that one of the biggest barriers between you and your goals is actually doing the necessary things in a disciplined fashion, then this book will help you become more efficient, and actually get there.

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  • Walking… Better.

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    Walking… Better.

    We recently reviewed52 Ways To Walk” by Annabel Streets. You asked us to share some more of our learnings from that book, and… Obviously we can’t do all 52, nor go into such detail, but here are three top tips inspired by that book…

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    While cold weather is often seen as a reason to not walk, in fact, it has numerous health benefits, the most exciting of which might be:

    Walking in the cold causes us to convert white and yellow fat into the healthier brown fat. If you didn’t know about this, neither did scientists until about 15 years ago.

    In fact, scientists didn’t even know that adult humans could even have brown adipose tissue! It was really quite groundbreaking.

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    Work while you walk!

    Obviously this is only appropriate for some kinds of work… but if in your life you have any kind of work that is chiefly thinking, a bunch of it can be done while walking.

    Open your phone’s note-taking app, lock the screen and pocket your phone, and think on some problem that you need to solve. Whenever you have an “aha” moment, take out your phone and make a quick note on the go.

    For that matter, if you have the money and space (or are fortunate to have an employer disposed towards facilitating such), you could even set up a treadmill desk… At worst, it wouldn’t harm your work (and it’ll be a LOT better than sitting for so long).

    Walk within an hour of waking!

    No, this doesn’t mean that if you don’t get out of the house within 60 minutes you say “Oh no, missed the window, guess it’s a day in today”

    But it does mean: in the evening, make preparations to head out first thing in the morning. Set out your clothes and appropriate footwear, find your flask to fill with the beverage of your choice in the morning and set that with them.

    Then, when morning arrives… do your morning necessaries (e.g. some manner of morning ablutions and perhaps a light breakfast), make that drink for your flask, and hit the road.

    Why? We’ll tell you a secret:

    You ever wondered why some people seem to be more able to keep a daylight-regulated circadian rhythm than others? It’s not just about smartphones and coffees…

    This study found that getting sunlight (not electric light, not artificial sunlight, but actual sunlight, from the sun, even if filtered through partial cloud) between 08:30—09:00 resulted in higher levels of a protein called PER2. PER2 is critical for setting circadian rhythms, improving metabolism, and fortifying blood vessels.

    Besides, on a more simplistic level, it’s also a wonderful and energizing start to a healthy and productive day!

    Read: Beneficial effects of daytime light exposure on daily rhythms, metabolic state and affect

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