Hold Me Tight – by Dr. Sue Johnson

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A lot of relationship books are quite wishy-washy. This one isn’t.

This one is evidenced-based (and heavily referenced!), and yet at the same time as being deeply rooted in science, it doesn’t lose the human touch.

Dr. Johnson has spent her career as a clinical psychologist and researcher; she’s the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in over 35 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. In other words, it works.

EFT—and thus also this book—finds roots in Attachment Theory. As such, topics this book covers include:

  • Recognizing and recovering from attachment injury
  • How fights in a relationship come up, and how they can be avoided
  • How lot of times relationships end, it’s not because of fights, but a loss of emotional connection
  • Building a lifetime of love instead, falling in love again each day

This book lays the groundwork for ensuring a strong, secure, ongoing emotional bond, of the kind that makes/keeps a relationship joyful and fulfilling.

Dr. Johnson has been recognized in her field with a Lifetime Achievement Award, and the Order of Canada.

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  • Fast Like A Girl – by Dr. Mindy Pelz

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    A lot of information out there when it comes to intermittent fasting is very much centered on men in the 25–35 years age range. What about the rest of us?

    Our physiological needs are not the same, and it’d be foolhardy to ignore that. But what things do still stand the same, and what things would benefit from a different approach in our cases?

    Dr. Pelz has our back with this book packed with information based on the best science currently out there. She gives a general overview of fasting with full consideration to the fact that we the reader may well be female or over a certain age or both. In addition, the book offers:

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  • Voluntary assisted dying is different to suicide. But federal laws conflate them and restrict access to telehealth

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    Voluntary assisted dying is now lawful in every Australian state and will soon begin in the Australian Capital Territory.

    However, it’s illegal to discuss it via telehealth. That means people who live in rural and remote areas, or those who can’t physically go to see a doctor, may not be able to access the scheme.

    A federal private members bill, introduced to parliament last week, aims to change this. So what’s proposed and why is it needed?

    What’s wrong with the current laws?

    Voluntary assisted dying doesn’t meet the definition of suicide under state laws.

    But the Commonwealth Criminal Code prohibits the discussion or dissemination of suicide-related material electronically.

    This opens doctors to the risk of criminal prosecution if they discuss voluntary assisted dying via telehealth.

    Successive Commonwealth attorneys-general have failed to address the conflict between federal and state laws, despite persistent calls from state attorneys-general for necessary clarity.

    This eventually led to voluntary assistant dying doctor Nicholas Carr calling on the Federal Court of Australia to resolve this conflict. Carr sought a declaration to exclude voluntary assisted dying from the definition of suicide under the Criminal Code.

    In November, the court declared voluntary assisted dying was considered suicide for the purpose of the Criminal Code. This meant doctors across Australia were prohibited from using telehealth services for voluntary assisted dying consultations.

    Last week, independent federal MP Kate Chaney introduced a private members bill to create an exemption for voluntary assisted dying by excluding it as suicide for the purpose of the Criminal Code. Here’s why it’s needed.

    Not all patients can physically see a doctor

    Defining voluntary assisted dying as suicide in the Criminal Code disproportionately impacts people living in regional and remote areas. People in the country rely on the use of “carriage services”, such as phone and video consultations, to avoid travelling long distances to consult their doctor.

    Other people with terminal illnesses, whether in regional or urban areas, may be suffering intolerably and unable to physically attend appointments with doctors.

    The prohibition against telehealth goes against the principles of voluntary assisted dying, which are to minimise suffering, maximise quality of life and promote autonomy.

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    Some people aren’t able to attend doctors’ appointments in person.
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    Doctors don’t want to be involved in ‘suicide’

    Equating voluntary assisted dying with suicide has a direct impact on doctors, who fear criminal prosecution due to the prohibition against using telehealth.

    Some doctors may decide not to help patients who choose voluntary assisted dying, leaving patients in a state of limbo.

    The number of doctors actively participating in voluntary assisted dying is already low. The majority of doctors are located in metropolitan areas or major regional centres, leaving some locations with very few doctors participating in voluntary assisted dying.

    It misclassifies deaths

    In state law, people dying under voluntary assisted dying have the cause of their death registered as “the disease, illness or medical condition that was the grounds for a person to access voluntary assisted dying”, while the manner of dying is recorded as voluntary assisted dying.

    In contrast, only coroners in each state and territory can make a finding of suicide as a cause of death.

    In 2017, voluntary assisted dying was defined in the Coroners Act 2008 (Vic) as not a reportable death, and thus not suicide.

    The language of suicide is inappropriate for explaining how people make a decision to die with dignity under the lawful practice of voluntary assisted dying.

    There is ongoing taboo and stigma attached to suicide. People who opt for and are lawfully eligible to access voluntary assisted dying should not be tainted with the taboo that currently surrounds suicide.

    So what is the solution?

    The only way to remedy this problem is for the federal government to create an exemption in the Criminal Code to allow telehealth appointments to discuss voluntary assisted dying.

    Chaney’s private member’s bill is yet to be debated in federal parliament.

    If it’s unsuccessful, the Commonwealth attorney-general should pass regulations to exempt voluntary assisted dying as suicide.

    A cooperative approach to resolve this conflict of laws is necessary to ensure doctors don’t risk prosecution for assisting eligible people to access voluntary assisted dying, regional and remote patients have access to voluntary assisted dying, families don’t suffer consequences for the erroneous classification of voluntary assisted dying as suicide, and people accessing voluntary assisted dying are not shrouded with the taboo of suicide when accessing a lawful practice to die with dignity.

    Failure to change this will cause unnecessary suffering for patients and doctors alike.The Conversation

    Michaela Estelle Okninski, Lecturer of Law, University of Adelaide; Marc Trabsky, Associate professor, La Trobe University, and Neera Bhatia, Associate Professor in Law, Deakin University

    This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

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  • Do Hard Things – by Steve Magness

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    It’s easy to say that we must push ourselves if we want to achieve worthwhile things—and it’s also easy to push ourselves into an early grave by overreaching. So, how to do the former, without doing the latter?

    That’s what this book’s about. The author, speaking from a background in the science of sports psychology, applies his accumulated knowledge and understanding to the more general problems of life.

    Most of us are, after all, not sportspeople or if we are, not serious ones. Those few who are, will get benefit from this book too! But it’s mostly aimed at the rest of us who are trying to work out whether/when we should scale up, scale back, change track, or double down:

    • How much can we really achieve in our career?
    • How about in retirement?
    • Do we ever really get too old for athletic feats, or should we keep pressing on?

    Magness brings philosophy and psychological science together, to help us sort our way through.

    Nor is this just a pep talk—there’s readily applicable, practical, real-world advice here, things to enable us to do our (real!) best without getting overwhelmed.

    The style is pop-science, very easy-reading, and clear and comprehensible throughout—without succumbing to undue padding either.

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