This one’s not about how to avoid aging, but rather, how to be at peace with whatever aging may be happening, perhaps despite our best efforts.

The book is dedicated:

❝To all the starving and suffering children throughout the world, with the wish that they may someday have the opportunity to experience the life of a contented geriatric❞

It’s a stark reminder that old age is a privilege that many do not get to enjoy, thanks to poverty, disease, wars, and accidents and incidents along the way.

So, how to go about making the very most of what we have, for those of us who are perhaps going gray in a comfortable, safe environment?

The answer may surprise you: the authors tackle things head-on without dressing old age up in euphemisms or platitudes—they cover not just the physical decline that typically occurs eventually, but also the impact of the physical pain that this may bring, the way this may play into loneliness and helplessness, and perhaps anxiety and/or depression. And, of course, the topic of grief and loss, that for most of us becomes all the more part of our lives as we get older. For that matter, our own mortality is also something the authors come back to from start to finish.

Thus, this is not necessarily a cheerful book—but it gives the tools such that we can be cheerful about life in general, in the face of all the aforementioned things, without pretending that things that are not good are good, just, making our peace with what is, and making the most out of what we have.

The authors are Zen teachers with decades of experience, and this book is heavily influenced by Zen principles. And yes, it does teach meditation too, but that’s just one tool in the toolbox.

The style is deep and yet very readable, heavy of tone and at the same time inspiring of lightness of heart.

Bottom line: if you’d like to worry less about aging (while still doing all you want to stay young), this book can certainly help with that.

Click here to check out Aging For Beginners, and be at peace with yourself.

It’s sometimes said that your brain, and by extension the rest of your body, is listening to everything you say—including, of course, what you say just in your head.

So, how can we best make use of that? Dr. Helmstetter covers a lot more than just “be nice to yourself”, and discusses how to change habits and rewire attitude, solve problems and overcome personal growth stasis, and also how to navigate the nuances of situational self-talk, while keeping to the principle that “if it isn’t simple, it won’t work”.

The style is a little more personal than one might expect; notwithstanding the title being about what to say when you talk to yourself, the pronoun “I” is the one the author uses rather more than “you”, giving many examples of how he has done things, and telling stories involving himself. This is all illustrative and helpful, so it’s not a problem, just an interesting choice that may alienate some readers.

In the category of subjective criticism, the book is quite repetitive; it seems Dr. Helmstetter goes for the P. T. Barnum approach of “tell them what you’re going to tell them, tell them, and then tell them what you’ve told them”, and repeats a few extra times to be sure. So, for those who find that repetition indeed helps learning, this book will very much fulfil that preference.

Bottom line: if you’d like to improve your self-talk to re-write your brain for the better, then this book will walk you through the processes very thoroughly indeed.

Click here to check out What To Say When You Talk To Your Self, and rewire yourself!