
Reinventing Your Life – by Dr. Jeffrey Young & Dr. Janet Klosko
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This book is quite unlike any other broadly-CBT-focused books we’ve reviewed before. How so, you may wonder?
Rather than focusing on automatic negative thoughts and cognitive distortions with a small-lens focus on an immediate problem, this one zooms out rather and tackles the cause rather than the symptom.
The authors outline eleven “lifetraps” that we can get stuck in:
- Abandonment
- Mistrust & abuse
- Vulnerability
- Dependence
- Emptional deprivation
- Social exclusion
- Defectiveness
- Failure
- Subjugation
- Unrelenting standards
- Entitlement
They then borrow from other areas of psychology, to examine where these things came from, and how they can be addressed, such that we can escape from them.
The style of the book is very reader-friendly pop-psychology, with illustrative (and perhaps apocryphal, but no less useful for it if so) case studies.
The authors then go on to give step-by-step instructions for dealing with each of the 11 lifetraps, per 6 unmet needs we probably had that got us into them, and per 3 likely ways we tried to cope with this using maladaptive coping mechanisms that got us into the lifetrap(s) we ended up in.
Bottom line: if you feel there’s something in your life that’s difficult to escape from (we cannot outrun ourselves, after all, and bring our problems with us), this book could well contain the key that you need to get out of that cycle.
Click here to check out “Reinventing Your Life” and break free from any lifetrap(s) of your own!
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The Real Cause Of Tight Hips
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It’s about stability, before flexibility:
Time to leverage what you have
For most people, our hips feel tight not because they lack flexibility, but because our core isn’t giving the hips enough stability to move safely, so the tightness keeps returning.
Stretching feels good temporarily, but our hips tighten again when our core can’t control the pelvis, so the body “protects” the hips by limiting range.
Some exercises to fix that:
- Hip extension—dead bug: lie on your back with your legs at 90° and your arms above your shoulders, then slowly lower one arm and the opposite leg while keeping your abs tight and your lower back pressed into the floor—this teaches your hips to move while your pelvis stays controlled.
- Hip extension—bird dog: from all fours, brace your abs as if someone is about to poke your stomach, then extend one leg back and the opposite arm forwards while keeping your lower back still and your hips level—this connects your glutes with your deep core.
- Hip flexion—hollow hold with alternating hip flexion: lie flat, reach your arms overhead, tuck your pelvis, press your lower back into the floor, then lift and hold the hollow position while bending one leg at a time—your goal is to keep your body steady, not to lift high.
- Hip flexion—supine march with band: loop a light band around your feet, lie on your back, keep your lower back pressed down, then extend one leg forwards against the band while keeping your opposite leg completely still—this builds controlled hip flexion with deep-core support.
- Hip abduction—side plank with top-leg raise: hold a side plank on your forearm, lift your top leg slowly, and keep your core tight and your hips steady—this strengthens the muscles that open your hips without letting your pelvis wobble.
- Hip abduction—seated band abductions: sit tall with a band above your knees, press your knees outwards, and return slowly while keeping your pelvis still—this builds side-to-side hip control in a grounded position.
- Hip adduction—side-lying active internal rotation: lie on your side with your top leg bent at 90° in front of you, then rotate that leg so your foot lifts—this targets the small inner-hip stabilisers responsible for internal rotation and centred hip movement.
- Hip adduction—standing band adduction: attach a band to your ankle, stand tall, brace your abs, and pull your leg inwards without leaning or twisting—this trains real-world hip control for walking, running, and squatting.
For more on all of this plus visual demonstrations, enjoy:
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10 Unexpected Benefits Of Slow Jogging
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Sometimes, less is more:
Slow and steady wins the race?
Here’s the rundown… Slowly:
- You burn more body fat: running at 50-60% of max heart rate primarily burns fat without having the usual compensatory metabolic slump afterwards, unless you go for a very long time.
- You can build more muscle: lower-intensity workouts improve muscle recovery, which is essential too.
- You can reduce muscle soreness: light jogging helps clear lactic acid faster (10almonds note: muscle soreness after exercise isn’t about lactic acid)
- You avoid injuries: less impact on joints reduces injury risk.
- You learn the proper form: running slowly allows better focus on technique.
- You can enjoy it more: slower pace lets you take in surroundings and boosts mood.
- You still improve your cardiorespiratory fitness: strengthens heart and lungs over time.
- You’ll burn more calories than you think: can burn 200–400 calories per 30 minutes.
- You’ll improve your mobility: gentle movement supports joint health and collagen production.
- You can improve your performance: builds endurance and strength for faster running
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Strong At Every Age: 15 Habits To Level Up Your Health & Fitness
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Not every increase in health and fitness needs to look like a training montage from the “Rocky” movies!
Making progress every day
We’ll not keep the 15 habits a secret; they are:
- Follow the one-minute rule: commit to just one minute of action—this makes starting easier, and often you’ll end up doing more once you’ve got started.
- Make the habit exciting: add fun elements to make the habit more enjoyable, like using new gear or accessories.
- Do it first: prioritize new habits by doing them early in the day to ensure they get done.
- Share the love: pair new habits with activities you already enjoy, where practical, to do “temptation bundling”.
- Embrace the uncomfortable: get used to discomfort daily to grow and build resilience for bigger changes.
- Do as little as possible: start small with habits, to minimize resistance and focus on consistency.
- Think how to be lazy: simplify processes and use shortcuts; there are no extra prizes for it having been difficult!
- Make the appointment: schedule habits with set dates and times, to increase accountability.
- Let habits evolve: adapt habits to fit current circumstances; that way you can still stay consistent over time.
- Plan ahead: prepare in advance to avoid setbacks—what could stop you from succeeding, and how can you pre-empt that?
- Pause to reflect: regularly evaluate what works and what doesn’t, to adjust and improve.
- Shut off your brain: avoid overthinking and start taking action now, not later, to build momentum.
- Question and learn: stay curious and open to learning, or else you will plateau quickly!
- Ask why: understand the deeper reasons behind any resistance, and make clear for yourself the value of the habit.
- Love your failures: embrace any setbacks as learning opportunities and, as such, stepping stones to success.
For more on all of each of these, enjoy:
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Why Do Blood Types Matter?
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Dr. Natalie Hodge talks us through the differences that they do (and don’t) make:
If you prick us, do we not bleed?
First, know this: antigens are proteins on the surface of red blood cells that act like identification markers, helping your immune system distinguish your own cells from foreign ones.
The two key antigens are A and B, which determine the ABO blood types, because:
- A and B are dominant over O
- A and B are codominant with each other
Thus:
- AA or AO produces type A
- BB or BO produces type B
- AB produces type AB
- OO produces type O
Receiving incompatible blood can trigger immune attacks because antibodies recognize foreign antigens and may cause dangerous clotting, but it doesn’t have to be the exact same type, because:
- Universal recipient: people with AB blood can receive A, B, AB, or O blood because they don’t produce anti-A or anti-B antibodies
- …because if they did, they’d already have an immune disorder so severe that they’d die very quickly!
- Universal donor: people with O blood can donate to all ABO types because their red blood cells lack A and B antigens
- …because if they did, they (by definition) wouldn’t have type O blood!
As for rhesus factor (named after rhesus monkeys!), Rh+ means the D antigen is present, while Rh- means it is absent. For most people, this doesn’t make any difference, though it can occasionally cause complications in pregnancy if there’s a mismatch.
There are some myths about blood types, including that blood type determines personality, or one’s ideal diet. There is no science to those myths.
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Life Extension Multivitamins vs Centrum Multivitamins – Which is Healthier
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Our Verdict
When comparing Life Extension Multivitamins to Centrum Multivitamins, we picked the Life Extension.
Why?
The clue here was on the label: “two per day”. It’s not so that they can sell extra filler! It’s because they couldn’t fit it all into one.
While the Centrum Multivitamins is a (respectably) run-of-the-mill multivitamin (and multimineral) containing reasonable quantities of most vitamins and minerals that people supplement, the Life Extension product has the same plus more:
- More of the vitamins and minerals; i.e. more of them are hitting 100%+ of the RDA
- More beneficial supplements, including:
- Inositol, Alpha lipoic acid, Bio-Quercetin phytosome, phosphatidylcholine complex, Marigold extract, Apigenin, Lycopene, and more that we won’t list here because it starts to get complicated if we do.
We’ll have to write some main features on some of those that we haven’t written about before, but suffice it to say, they’re all good things.
Main take-away for today: sometimes more is better; it just necessitates then reading the label to check.
Want to get some Life Extension Multivitamins (and/or perhaps just read the label on the back)? Here they are on Amazon
PS: it bears mentioning, since we are sometimes running brands against each other head-to-head in this section: nothing you see here is an advertisement/sponsor unless it’s clearly marked as such. We haven’t, for example, been paid by Life Extension or any agent of theirs, to write the above. It’s just our own research and conclusion.
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Goat Milk Greek Yogurt vs Almond Milk Greek Yogurt – Which is Healthier?
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Our Verdict
When comparing goat milk yogurt to almond milk yogurt, we picked the almond milk yogurt.
Why?
Surprised? Honestly, we were too!
Much as we love almonds, we were fully expecting to write about how they’re very close in nutritional value, but the dairy yogurt has more probiotics, but no, as it turns out when we looked into them, they’re quite comparable in that regard.
It’s easy to assume “goat milk yogurt is more natural and therefore healthier”, but in both cases, it was a case of taking a fermentable milk, and fermenting it (an ancient process). “But almond milk is a newfangled thing”, well, new-ish…
So what was the deciding factor?
In this case, the almond milk yogurt has about twice the protein per (same size) serving, compared to the goat milk; all the other macros are about the same, and the micronutrients are similar. Like many plant-based milks and yogurts, this one is fortified with calcium and vitamin D, so that wasn’t an issue either.
In short: the only meaningful difference was the protein, and the almond came out on top.
However!
The almond came out on top only because it is strained; this can be done (or not) with any kind of yogurt, be it from an animal or a plant.
In other words: if it had been different brands, the goat milk yogurt could have come out on top!
The take-away idea here is: always read labels, because as you’ve just seen, even we can get surprised sometimes!
seriously if you only remember one thing from this today, make it the above
Other thing worth mentioning: yogurts, and dairy products in general, are often made with common allergens (e.g. dairy, nuts, soy, etc). So if you are allergic or intolerant, obviously don’t choose the one to which you are allergic or intolerant.
That said… If you are lactose-intolerant, but not allergic, goat’s milk does have less lactose than cow’s milk. But of course, you know your limits better than we can in this regard.
Want to try some?
Amazon is not coming up with the goods for this one (or anything even similar, at time of writing), so we recommend trying your local supermarket (and reading labels, because products vary widely!)
What you’re looking for (be it animal- or plant-based):
- Live culture probiotic bacteria
- No added sugar
- Minimal additives in general
- Lastly, check out the amounts for protein, calcium, vitamin D, etc.
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